10 Relationships Ruined by Food, According to Reddit

How far would you go to please your significant other’s mom? Would you eat a special mystery casserole made only for you that goes against your dietary restrictions? This poster (F23) didn’t, and may have ruined her relationship over it.

The poster, while not 100% vegan, is still trying to eat a mostly vegan diet and when invited over to her boyfriend’s (M24) parents’ house for dinner, simply asked that there be at least some kind of vegan food available, even in the form of a side dish. What she got instead was a special casserole just for her while everyone else was served potatoes with various sides. At first she assumed the casserole was all vegan — but, she writes, she assumed incorrectly:

She told me it was her signature dish and no, it wasn’t vegan and yes, she knew it didn’t align with my diet but I should give it a try since it would be so much better than anything else I could have. I was irritated that she went out of her way to cook something she KNEW I didn’t want to eat, so I told her that I appreciated her effort but that I wasn’t going to eat it but I’d be happy to just have some plain potatoes. That’s when she got mad and defensive and called me ungrateful that I wouldn’t even try it.

On our way back, I was still confused by the whole thing and asked my bf about it but he accused me of causing a scene. He agreed it was stupid his mom made the casserole but said that since I still eat non-vegan food occassionally, I shouldn’t have made it awkward. I probably would have eaten it if this had been a misunderstanding or if she had accidentally served something not entirely vegan, but I found her serving me the dish disrespectful and it was a matter of principle for me.

Sticking to boundaries around your personal diet? Not the asshole. Not sticking up for your girlfriend when she’s uncomfortable? The asshole.